For what it’s worth… 

“As little-mac sees it:” 

All or nothing? 

A submissive opinion.

 50/50

 Vs.

100/100

June 25, 2016

 There are plenty of questions about my choice to live 24/7 in my D/s dynamic. Is it healthy? Aren’t you embarrassed? Is my decision to be in service, 24/7, in whatever capacity Master deems to be in my best interest, something that is realistically possible?  I wanted to share my thoughts on why it is not only healthy and realistic in a real-world application, but it creates incredibly happy and successful relationships. 

I believe, in most cases. The delusion, vanilla marriages begin with good intentions. Those good intentions are then declared, under penalty of perjury (so to speak) as vows, and for the most part, quickly lead to underlying resentment.

So quickly it has become the standard and expectation of a relationship to do everything 50/50.

“Marriage is a 50/50 partnership.”

“We do everything 50/50.”

“We are equally involved in childcare, bills, work, etc.”

I genuinely think this stems from good intentions of equality. But primal DNA trumps good intention, it is simply not possible. 

50/50 produces confusion. Period.

As your life ×2 becomes complicated. Your married life becomes even more so. If this 50/50 notion is indicative of a sliding scale of participation in a relationship, how do we even start to quantify things that cannot be so? Determine half of “emotional support.” Put a value $ on one partner’s career versus the others. Balance precisely caring about yourself and caring for your significant other. Weigh their importance against yours every day. It leads all too often to the heinous state of consent resentment.

Because, in fact, in a 50/50 relationship, you are 50% responsible for your well-being.

I better hope it is the right 50% this week, or one-half may feel taken for granted and burdened. Or lonely. Or angry because your other half is consumed by their entitlement to maintaining their portion when you feel as though you are carrying 75% of the load. Looking back, when I was struggling in vanilla relationships, I was just plain exhausted from trying to maintain a 50/50 balance in life. As the saying goes.

 “Chasing transparent dangling carrots” In Total Power Exchange, you are shifting the scales. It becomes a 100/100 relationship. The Master becomes entirely, completely one hundred percent in control of the relationship and its functions. It is his or her complete power over the other person. The sub, his property. 

 In turn, the sub has given up control but gains one hundred percent of life serving her Master in how the Master deems fit.

All of a sudden, a relationship becomes simple. Each person knows exactly their place. They have specific obligations. They have understood roles. They have an answer in every situation. The Master is 100 percent in control of his property. The sub is 100 percent owned by the Master.

Think about how selfless this relationship style is. As a sub, I give my entirety of my being to serving my Master 100% of the time. But in turn, I know he is doing what is very best for me 100% of the time. We are both always provided for completely.

100% of the time.

And it is by caring for somebody else before yourself. What an altruistic path in life to take. On both sides.

Sub thinks of Master first 100%.
Master thinks of sub first 100%.

There is no grey here in this dynamic. Just black and white, yin and yang, two imperfect pieces fitting together perfectly, filling in where the other leaves off seamlessly.

“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” -Albert Einstein

“As little-mac sees it, for what it’s worth.”